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Misgendered as "Ma'am" [30 Oct 2015|10:57am]
Did you see this "I am Cait" episode over the summer? In "What's in a Name" an FTM who hasn't legally changed his name to Ethan (I have a nephew named Ethan :)) spoke of his being misgendered by cops when his gender identity didn't match his id/driver's license.

Below is an excerpt of the transcript:

Ethan: When I interact with the police, they're... they're pretty cool to me all the way up until they ask me my legal name, 'cause I haven't gotten that changed yet. And then, all of a sudden, they just keep calling me "ma'am." Like, "Ma'am, ma'am, ma'am, miss, ma'am." Like, do I look like a ma'am? And then I get all those messed-up questions. Like, you don't need to know what... what I have underneath my clothes.

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Can I Use my Self-Identifying Name When Getting Help from Disabled Resource Center? [26 Jul 2013|10:52am]
I've been trying to contact the Dayle Mc Intosh Disabled Resource Center in Garden Grove CA to help me move out of my mom's new home (we're moving this weekend) and into a home of my own. I used my self-identifying name Mel (it is a shortened of my female birth/legal name, I can't legally change my name to Mel yet) but I'm concerned about not being able to get help from them, is there a way I can use the name Mel (even if when it's just addressing me) and still get help moving out of mom's home and get an advocate/payee?

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Passing in the Shower While Lowes Workers Works [23 Jan 2013|10:56am]
[ mood | anxious ]

Tomorrow some workers from Lowes are going to install a new heating/air conditioning system in our attic and I'm concerned about passing while getting into the shower(the access to the attic is between my room and the bathroom). I recycle cans for money and I can't wait until very late to shower let alone until the next day because I would be extremely dirty and smelly when I return home going to the dinner table in that condition is uncomfortable and the place would smell like me!.

What can I say and/or do to them to get them to not to look while I'm getting into the shower (Wearing a towel won't cut it, I'd have to cover both top and bottom , and a it's too late to get a bathrobe)?

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acne issues [30 Jun 2012|11:53am]
I am going to make this brief! I was having horrible acne until I tried a product that has made my skin better than ever. In fact, I liked it so much that I am now an Independant Sales Rep for the company. If you are having acne issues email me @ ajniebuhr@yahoo.com with the subject line being "ftm acne" and I will hook you up with a 10% discount and recommendations.

Just trying to help my fellow brothers out :)

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Fabulous Clothing! [28 Apr 2012|11:20am]
Hello my fellow fabulous femme, fem, effdminate, dandy, and otherwise fantastic fellows!

I am a transgenderqueer femme guy, I hope to go on T one day but am going to have to wait. For now, I do what I can. Soon I will have a binder! And I am trying to change my wardrobe.

My main issue is I HATE HATE HATE most of the men's section. So boring! So drab! Some of the t-shirts can be nice, and binder or otherwise I will grab close-fitting ones. But I require more professional clothing for work, so t-shirts are right out!

Am I forever doomed to purchase my tops from the section marked 'ladies?' Not that I have a HUGE problem with that, I will do what I must, buuut... isn't there anywhere I can get effeminate, feminine tops and shirts from a men's section or store? That I can wear to work? So tired of my choices being... collared shirt, collared shirt, collared shirt...

I love alternative style clothes, but my city is seriously lacking in goth shops for example. I try thrift stores and hit the same issue, rows upon rows of tshirts, sweaters, and collared shirts all with the same cookie-cutter plan. :(


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Has anyone else had this..? [01 Apr 2012|05:57pm]

OK seriously guys, I'm completely confused by what's going on in my head at the moment. If any of you have any perspectives or experiences to share, hit me. All sorts of randomCollapse )

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[14 Feb 2012|11:46am]

Hey there eveyone! I'm in a cosplay contest and I would really appreciate your vote. Just go here and click VOTE on the lower left hand corner! Thank you! http://www.facebook.com/CosplayWigsUSA?v=app_204169126292521&app_data=cid_15562

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[19 Oct 2011|02:58am]

[ mood | amused ]

thought y'all might appreciate the manifestation of my hopeless tolkien nerding and femme ftm woes.

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introduction [09 Oct 2011|07:32pm]

[ mood | anxious ]

heyo, friendos. it doesn't look like this community is super active anymore but, on the off chance someone comes snooping around, I thought I'd say hello anyway. I'm maxwell. seventeen and pre-everything, very selectively out to the people in my life. if anyone's game to give/get support or just chat, don't hesitate to drop a line or two.

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Seeking Partners of FTMs to Participate in Study [03 Oct 2011|06:14pm]


I am a graduate student in Sociology at UC, Santa Barbara. I am looking for partners of transgender people who meet the following criteria to participate in an interview study: 

*Your partner identifies as female-to-male, or on a feminine-to-masculine spectrum

*Your partner is currently undergoing gender transition, or made transition during the course of your relationship

If you would like to participate, or to ask any questions first, please contact me at k_bishop@umail.ucsb.edu.

Thank you, and I look forward to hearing from you!

-Katelynn Bishop

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Salutations! [21 Jul 2011|02:41pm]

[ mood | anxious ]

Ahh gosh, I'm a little bit nervous about this, first time talking to others who understand my situation.

Well, it's nice to meet you, I'm 19 and I'm an English lass myself, and I'm also not sure what I am, genderqueer, FtM..it's all rather complicated to me. So I'll just be blunt, though I'm physically female I'm mentally male, albeit effeminate. Also I'm a lesbian myself, or rather straight, I'm not sure about my pronouns yet! Ah yes, that's me in my icon, the dark haired one and my very supportive BFF. It's not very flattering I admit.

Text Wall hereCollapse )

Ahhh I'm terrible at introductions! I'm really sorry this all just came out but for the first time talking with other people who can actually relate, I'm excited and very nervous.

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3 Research Calls [15 Jun 2011|04:28pm]

My name is Colt Meier and I am a graduate student at the University of Houston studying Clinical Psychology. I am involved with advising the researchers in the first two studies that I am advertising here.

All 3 studies have been approved by the IRB and involve informed consent.

-The first study is for partners of FTMs who remained with their partner through transition and are still with him. This is the FINAL call for this study.
-The second study is for birth assigned females who are planning on beginning testosterone treatment in the near future in order to help their physical appearance more closely align with their gender identity.
-The third study examines the experience of pregnancy in gender variant birth assigned females.

Please feel free to distribute these as you see fit.

Thank you,
Colt Meier, MA
University of Houston

STUDY 1 PartnersCollapse )
STUDY 2 Starting TestosteroneCollapse )
STUDY 3 PregnancyCollapse )

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dress clothes? [18 May 2011|05:04pm]
hey y'all,
especially those of you who are pre-everything and/or don't really pass,
quick question.

what do you wear in situations that require dressing up? like ... dress pants, button downs, ties, right?

except that always ends up looking waaaay butch/dykey on me, and that is so not a look i am going for at all.

which makes me kind of unhappy.

right? like in real life i wear red skinny jeans and sparkly shoes and colorful sweaters and rainbows and shit. how do i transfer that to a more formal setting?

help? this summer i have a govt internship in dc and i have no idea what to wearrrr. also i have a thing this monday. eep!

thanks for your help!


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HAIR [27 Apr 2011|04:27pm]

Hi! I'm Fen, FTM and genderneutral (it's complicated)
As of now, I don't even have a binder due to lack of money, but I am thinking about getting a haircut. The problem is, I'm really shy in person and I'm scared the hairstylist will ask why I want a boy's haircut. Also, I love my hair as it is, but it's very girly. Any of you felt the same way? Or, any of you have really cute emo hair?
Pic of me behind cut...Collapse )

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My new FTM YOUTUBE Channel! [19 Apr 2011|08:56pm]


im ryan, and im ftm! yah

i just wanted to post about my new youtube channel, where im trying to set up a place for people to talk about ftm everyday issues. Ive set up a few videos already and am open to ideas to make new videos. one of the more important reasons for doing this was because i felt that the lgbt community has a way of excluding queer people of color, and being hispanic myself, i identify with this feeling. i havent seen much out there based on these issues and thought maybe this could be a place for some of that to be spoken about.

well heres the channel check it out!


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a big reason I hesitate in transitioning [10 Apr 2011|12:48am]

Is affording everything. I think I might be FTM, but right now I just say I'm genderqueer. Because I don't want to get so far into trying to be male, and then not be able to afford things like T and top surgery. What do you guys do about that?

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New YouTube Channel [30 Mar 2011|10:59am]


I hope that this is okay to post here (cross-posting all over the place.)

I've been vlogging about my transition for a long time now, with over 90 videos to my channel, and I've been running a small community online for transmen since 2005, but what I've really wanted to do is create a YouTube channel with videos centering around various specific subjects to do with transgender life, from the experience and information that I have picked up over the years.

So, now I have! It's called Transtastic101, and it's a channel for guidance, advice and general information. I would love your support, subscriptions and comments to help build the channel.
I think that the best way for it to grow and be helpful is if people tell me where I can improve, what I should make videos about, etc.
I hope to help and inform with a good sense of humour and an optimism that took me years to obtain.

You can find the channel here:

Along with an introduction video here:

And finally, the first official video which is on the subject of packing:
(With bloopers soon to follow!)

Thank you very much!

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Research call for cis partners who remained with FTM through transition [12 Feb 2011|01:54pm]

Relationship Satisfaction of Partners of Female to Male Trans Men

How do I qualify?
Are you 18 or older? Are you a partner of a female-to-male trans man or a female to male trans man who is partnered? Have you been in this romantic relationship before he transitioned (however you define transitioning) and are still in the relationship now?
In order to qualify for this study you (the non-FTM partner) must be at least 18 years old and have not or do not plan to make a gender transition. Your FTM partner must also be at least 18 years old. Research participation is restricted to those who are living in the United States, or international participants who can speak and read English and are willing and able to use Skype. We are especially attempting to recruit partners of color as well as cis-male partners of FTMs, but all cisgender partners are welcome to participate.

Who is doing this and why?
Rebecca Keo, a partner of Colt Meier, a trans man, and a person of color, is conducting a research study on the romantic relationships of trans men. She is an undergraduate student at the University of Houston studying Psychology and LGBT studies. The results from this study will be used for her Undergraduate Senior Honors Thesis. The purpose of this research is to help inform researchers about romantic relationships that persist through a gender transition of an FTM. This study examines the non-FTM partner’s unique experience as they witness their partner’s transition.

What do I have to do to be a part of the research?
The study consists of an online questionnaire, which should take approximately 1 to 1.5 hours for both partners to complete separately. The questionnaires will assess basic demographic information as well as relationship satisfaction, physical and psychological abuse, and alcohol dependence. Upon completion of the questionnaire, the non-FTM partner will be asked to participate in an interview regarding your romantic relationship and experience through his transition. The interview will also last approximately 1-1.5 hours.
Both partners must read and agree to the consent form before filling out the survey and participating in the interview. This study has been reviewed by the Committee for Protecting Human Subjects at the University of Houston.

How do I get started?
If you would like to get more information or to participate in this research study, please email Rebecca at rlkeo929@gmail.com with the subject line: Partner of FTM Research. From there, she will ask you a few questions to make sure that you qualify, and then send you the consent form to look over. If you would still like to participate after reading and signing the consent form, she will send you a link to the online surveys, one for each partner. After you both fill out the surveys, then Rebecca will work with you to set up an interview time for the partner of the FTM (via phone or Skype).

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Clueless and New ... [23 Jan 2011|12:13am]

Ok, an introduction to begin with, I think ..

Welcome to my existenceCollapse )

I have posed part of that in another LJ, but I guess I figure I should introduce myself here as well. Sorry if it seems like rambling. The other thing I wanted to post here is actually a question, and I guess I know that it might be sort of complicated, and might have an in-depth answer, but I don't know where else to ask, as it is not something I could get information about in the area where I live.

So, here it is .. what are the actual steps toward gender reassignment? I mean, where does one start getting information, or who does one turn to?

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Vote for Pro-LGBT Miss America Contestant! [09 Jan 2011|01:46pm]

Vote for Ms. Claire Buffie a contestant for Miss America is the first ever pageant queen to campaign on an LGBT rights platform. Having won the nomination for Miss New York the beauty queen/photographer and activist now vies for the top crown.

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